Dr. Ruveda Salam first woman qualifying for the UPSC

Formidable Dr. Ruveda Salam wrote history when she became the first Muslim woman from the remote Farkin village in the border district of Kupwara to have cracked the prestigious IAS examination back in 2013. What started out as a dream that her father and she collectively shared from her growing up years soon became reality through Ruveda’s dedication, hard work and steely perseverance.

Ruveda began her career in 2009, after getting her medical degree from the Government Medical College in Srinagar. While still an intern, she applied for the J&K Public Service Commission examination. There were 398 posts advertised and Ruveda, with her state rank of 25, secured one of them. She quit medicine and joined the state civil services, working there for two years.

In 2013, she took the UPSC exams and cracked them to become the first woman from the Kashmir valley to do so. Her initial posting was in the Indian Police Services. She trained in Hyderabad and on completion of the training served as the Assistant Commissioner of Police in Chennai. But this wasn’t the real success she sought. She still had to fulfil her childhood dream of becoming an IAS officer. So, again in 2015, she cleared the UPSC exam for the second time. This time she got a higher rank, which enabled her to join the IAS.

In her recent interview to Rediff, Dr. Ruveda shares her story of how dreams become a reality when your heart and mind is in the right place. “When I was growing up in Kashmir, my father often used to say that I should become an IAS (Indian Administrative Service) officer. That's when I first thought of becoming one. It inspired me and I decided to go ahead and aim for it.”

Before becoming the Dr. Ruveda Salam examination in 2013, Ruveda got her MBBS degree from the Government Medical College in Srinagar.

After qualifying for the UPSC, she was then allotted the police services, and joined the police academy in Hyderabad for training. However, after the completion of her training, the lone Muslim woman police officer was put in the Tamil Nadu cadre.

“Last year, I was selected to the Indian Police Service cadre. I went for training to Hyderabad. The training was very strenuous. Physically it was very hard. I joined the IPS cadre in Tamil Nadu and was posted as an Assistant Commissioner of Police in Chennai.”

Having served in Tamil Nadu cadre for the past months, Dr. Ruveda has realized that there is nothing more satisfying than serving humanity, whether it’s in Kashmir or Tamil Nadu. As a lone woman police officer from her state, she now wishes to see more girls from Kashmir scale new heights of success.

“I have also given motivational speeches to the youth, particularly girls. I encourage them to appear for the IAS exams in Jammu and Kashmir. When girls see me in uniform they look at me with admiration. I had conducted a workshop for girls in Hyderabad. The girls who attended said they wanted to join the IPS, but were apprehensive about whether their parents will support them.”
It was Ruveda’s father who inspired her, giving her the confidence to work towards becoming an IAS officer.  Her mother helped by fending off all suggestions of an early marriage, letting Ruveda focus on building the life she wished for herself.

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Crazy for Women Who Are, Too........

Men love to be heroes:

They love to "fix" things. It makes them feel needed, important, and feeds the male ego. Who makes a better damsel in distress than a poor, defenseless lunachic? Note to guys: a woman is not like a house. Fixer-uppers do not usually turn out to be a wise investment. If you need to fix something, there are plenty of us normal single girls out there who need some light bulbs changed.

He has mommy issues:

If a guy had a dysfunctional mother (or primary family member) he may not actually be aware that his lady's behavior is NOT normal. There's no shame in going to therapy and working that stuff out.

Why do men love crazy women?

No one ever asks that question. You hear a lot about all the bad men out there. A whole lamentation genre has grown up around smart women and their foolish choices, their misguided hunting and fishing for Mr. Right.

Lucinda Rosenfeld's recent first novel ''What She Saw . . . '' is a litany of exes, each chapter named for a different one. ''Kevin McFeeley, or, 'The Romantic From Ronkonkoma,' '' and so on. In ''Shutterbabe: Adventures in Love and War,'' Deborah Copaken Kogan recounts her experiences as a photojournalist in Afghanistan, Romania, Zimbabwe. Again, each chapter is named after a man. What she saw in Pascal, Pierre, Julian . . . Both books treat men like case studies in dysfunction.

''Sex and the City'' coined the term ''toxic bachelor'' to describe the many Mr. Wrongs bedded by the show's chronically single women. He is emotionally unavailable, unwilling to commit, unfaithful. But ask a man why a relationship has gone bad and he will very often cite just one reason. Twirling his index finger around his ear, he will lip-sync, if not actually come out and say, ''She was crazy.''

Crazy in the loose definition, that is. From just beyond garden-variety neurotic -- a tantrum at a Burberry sample sale isn't quite nutty enough -- to Zelda Fitzgerald. This is the mad, mad world of X-rated eye contact, flirtatious disclosures of kinky passions, mysterious disappearances in the middle of a party, searches for all-night pharmacies, rash proposals to move to Palestine, Tex.

Meet Ms. Wrong. These are the toxic bachelorettes and screwed-up sirens who have shipwrecked so many men on the shoals of their studio apartments. There is no self-help book called ''Smart Men, Crazy Choices,'' because no man would be seen buying it. The phenomenon is not listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual. But psychologists I spoke with, male and female, instantly recognized it. As did any man with some baggage in his overhead compartment.

''I've always been attracted to crazy women, but I didn't marry one,'' said Adam Platt, a restaurant critic for New York magazine, who when he was single used to write columns for The New York Observer about his dating escapades. ''I would just chase them around and around,'' he said. ''High-energy, brainy, self-destructive women who came from tortured family situations. New York is a hotbed for that kind of character, because if you weren't crazy before you got here, you're certainly crazy after you've been dating a couple of years here.'' Including himself, he said, but not his wife. ''It's not like you're surrounded by pink-cheeked farm girls carrying buckets of milk around. You're surrounded by lunatics.''

Like addicts confessing for the first time to a lifelong habit, men offer tale after tale of seduction and disaster. The moth to this flame is, as often as not, the stable nice guy who seems inexorably drawn to women who should send him running for his life. The Angelinas, the Calistas and the many Kims (Kim Cattrall, Lil' Kim, Kimmi from ''Survivor,'

Men love to be heroes. They love to "fix" things. It makes them feel needed, important, and feeds the male ego. Who makes a better damsel in distress than a poor, defenseless lunachic? Note to guys: a woman is not like a house. Fixer-uppers do not usually turn out to be a wise investment. If you need to fix something, there are plenty of us normal single girls out there who need some light bulbs changed.

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Enjoy!!!

A man is flying in a hot air balloon and realizes he is lost. He reduces height and spots a man down below. He lowers the balloon further and shouts: "Excuse me, can you tell me where I am?"

The man below says: "Yes, you're in a hot air balloon, hovering 30 feet above this field."

"You must be an engineer" says the balloonist.

"I am" replies the man. "How did you know."

"Well, " says the balloonist, "everything you have told me is technically correct, but it's no use to anyone."

The man below says "you must be in management."

"I am" replies the balloonist, "but how did you know?"

"Well, " says the man, "you don't know where you are, or where you're going, but you expect me to be able to help. You're in the same position you were before we met, but now it's my fault."

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Value Of Parents

Think about it: 
  
One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.

He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.

The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the youth answered "none".

The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.

The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" The youth answered, "My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

The director asked, " Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?" The youth answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.

The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.*

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.

This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director's office.

The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked: " Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"

The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes'

The Director asked, " please tell me your feelings."

The youth said, Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not have been the successful me today. Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done. Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.

The director said, " This is what I am looking for to be my manager.
I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?*

You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done. 

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Who's at fault - Men or Women?

Sexual urge in any living being including the human being is a natural phenomenon which is meant for producing progeny.  It is the cosmic design lest the species would get extincted at one stage.

Male species crave for female ones all the time and unlike other living beings only in human being this powerful urge is controlled and streamlined by social edicts and taboos for man is a social animal.

ID, the self centre present in every human being send ripples of sex desire to the ego which looks for ways and means to satiate.  A cultured human being whose super ego which is meant for monitoring the ethics and values prevents a person from seeking unfair means and hence the person is able to suppress / repress this urge so as not to engage in obnoxious, unethical and unlawful deeds in getting this desire satiated.

However, a person with weak super ego because of absence of poor conscious as well as subconscious critical filters go all out unmindful of social taboos, laws of the land and self conscience to satiate the inner urge for sex as the suppressed or repressed urge would burst out at the slightest provocation by men/women.  That is the reason for such atrocities by men against women or women against men.

When one can look into the incidents, most of the incidents do happen when the women induce men through their appearance, ugly and uncouth behavior, provoking gestures, amorous gaze,  most importantly in the manner not allowed by the society they are in, men lose their mental equilibrium – obviously by the natural dormant animal instinct to defy social edicts.  The mind gets more corrupted when  men are under the influence of liquor buttressed by gang behavior.

Electronic and print media also report unchaste behavior by women which goes mostly unnoticed for one reason that the assault is either mild / covert / passive.  Many families are affected now-a-days by extra marital relationships involving women as the root cause.   Hence sexual assault is common for both men and women.  Unless otherwise the society is conscious of fortifying the critical filters in children to get away from such nonsense and use this urge in the right direction, crimes against women brutally as also men will be on the rise in the days to come as well.

The affected men and women due to sexual assault may get healed physically sooner or later whereas the mental trauma especially in the cases of teen age girls and boys would remain forever to haunt them during the remainder of their life.

Parents, elders and teachers should work together to protect our next generation keeping the magnitude of such incidents in mind.  Parents can and should enlighten their children on sex at the time right and manner, ensure their moral support in effectively handling their mental stress and lovingly guiding them to neutralize this natural urge.  If this is done, infatuated love and subsequent molestation and/or acid attacks on girls would be banished.

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6 Simple Solutions for Getting Rid of Stress

Getting rid of stress may be easier than you think. Try one of the following solutions or employ all six to enjoy stress-free, or at least less-stressed, living.

1. Don't take things so personally. Part of what creates stress is thinking that what other people do is something that is being done to us, or is a reflection of us or our actions.

2. Change your expectations. If you expect a co-worker to always be nice and they continue to be cranky, you'll be disappointed. You are choosing to be disappointed when you expect others to do something even when you have evidence to suggest that the behavior is highly unlikely.

3. Express your needs. Deciding to take responsibility for meeting your own needs is liberating. Without this decision, you lose time and energy waiting for others to figure out what you need and how, expecting them to deliver. If you need to hear compliments, say so. If you need to have more explanation, say so. It's up to you to get your own needs met and no one will know what they are better than you.

4. Don't make assumptions. Often we make assumptions about what others are thinking. Catch your assumptions before they become beliefs. Catch them before you take action on something you've assumed, but not verified. You'll be better off learning you were wrong than fixing the wrong action you took as a result of your assumption.

5. Face your feelings. A favorite workplace mantra is "check your emotions at the door." The problem it creates is many never open the door to face their emotions even when they get home. Feelings that are stuffed create a ticking time bomb of emotions likely to come out at the most inopportune moment. Find a steam valve for early expression so you don't have to find time off to recover from a later explosion.

6. Use restraint. If you respond to a customer's rude comment with a defensive attitude, you'll escalate the stress of the situation for both of you. Try to use restraint in your response to difficult clients and customers.

You can't control the actions of others, but by keeping your cool, you avoid contributing to continued stressful conversations. It takes two to argue and if you're not the one who starts it and you refuse to finish it, you'll likely have much less of it to experience. Remove your part in what creates stressful situations and those who have stress to share will have to go elsewhere.

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To improve your English language skills

To improve your English language skills:  I strongly suggest that your read extensively, speak in English as often as possible and of course attempt to write in English too. To force yourself to speak, try and make more friends who speak in English. Don't be embarrassed or hurt if they occasionally smirk or criticize your language. On the contrary learn from them when they correct you and note the progress you make.

When reading, look up the meaning of new words. Improve your vocabulary by finding synonyms of words and using it. Ensure you have a Dictionary as well as a Thesaurus and use both these extensively. Don't be shy to find out people who have a good command of English and seek their help when you want clarifications on help.

The next problem of writing must be tackled differently. In this context it is important to understand that some people are naturally gifted with the ability to write and express well, just as some others can articulate and speak well while others have an extraordinary gift of sketching and painting or are stronger in Maths and Science.

Does this mean that there is no hope for others? It is just that others have to understand their own style, adapt new techniques and work hard. So by posting your problem you have initiated the first step of seeking out new techniques and I am sure you are prepared to work hard too.

To organize your thoughts, read up on the Tony Buzzan Style of Mind Mapping which is a well known technique. If possible attend a workshop on that style. However I have neither attended such a program nor met any one who has undergone such a workshop so you have to check out on effectiveness and suitability of the same for you.

I have developed my own style and the key is to begin with a simple starting point which could be in the form of a subject line (as you would do in a letter) so that the crux of the writing is clear first. This would give you the fulcrum around which to outline your points. With this fulcrum in place, make a list of collaborating, competing, supporting and dysfunctional ideas. Each of these could possibly be the sub fulcrum of each paragraph or set of paragraphs. They can also act as sub ideas and sub titles. Now add meat to the skeleton using sentences peppered with action words, adjectives and the right tone

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How to Impress a Girl - Best Tips

When you find that specific and particular girl, you always want to impress her but scared of getting her offended. Most of the guys find it really hard to impress a girl, and you always end up in having your shaking legs and speechless mouth.

There are ways to impress a girl that will make the girl want you more and notice you more. Hurry up and read the post below, the tips guys need to impress girls are here!

1. Make a cool appearance

It is very necessary to make a cool and neat appearance of you whenever you go in front of that girl. It will look great to her and of course yourself.

2. Never Show off
Girls actually hate the show off thing; don’t ever put a fake appearance or something that you are not. Be yourself and do your best. That will surely impress girls.

3. Respect and Admiration

Always respect and admire the girl, because girls love when you admire them, treat her with kindness.

4. Meaningful talk

While talking to her don’t discuss controversial issues and don’t talk endlessly. Especially discuss things that have her interest and surely will catch your attention.

5. Take interest in her interests

Listen carefully to whatever girls says or in which she has interest. Respond to the talking quickly and throw back the questions to her to make her keep talking about that subject.

6. Compliment

Compliment her on her eyes, attire, hairs, looks and talking style, don’t talk about how hot figure she has. Girls love it when they are complimented on the looks or other features.

7. Respect her friends

When it comes to colleagues and friends, girls are very possessive about them, either you like them or not try to become the good guy that respects her friends.

8. Politeness
Always try to act politely and have the best behavior, because these two things can make you a perfect guy.

9. Humor

Be humorous sometimes, because girls love the humor factor about guys, crack jokes but only then when it is required otherwise try to take things seriously.

10. Be a good listener

Be the one who can give a shoulder to her when she is sad, as girls are always emotional so make her laugh with your jokes sometimes and listen to her always.

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"Forget and forgive" !!!!

"Forget and forgive" its the most comman statement others might offer you for a particular situation where we might have been cheated, decieted and taken aback by someone's actions.

What I believe is that nobody, yes nobody but "we" are ourselves responsible for whatever happens to us- good or bad. If thought for a while this statement will make sense, because we have something like  a conciousness which tells us what is right and what is wrong.

I think I have made a statement which might not be going down some people's throat or should I say ears and finally to their brains!

Well lemme explain- it is as simple as if we don't eat we feel hungry and if we eat we don't. We can extrapolate the same logic to problems in our lives and get a reason which actually points to "US" (not united states) for all the problems in the world.

Now about "forget and forgive". We have no right over another being but 100% on ourselves, so we should forgive each time, we make a mistake and forget those which cannot be corrected and soon we will realise that we have found a meaning to our life. But the catch is that we need to correct not forget the mistakes we can improve and some day eliminate.

Yes life is forget and forgive-- there is no third person just "ME".

THANKS

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What you mean by "Open marriage" or "open relationship" !!?

What you mean by "Open marriage" or "open relationship"? Whatever you defined above is nothing but "keeping the options open". Yeah... there are plenty such "open relationship" out in this world, I assume. I would compare someone, who keep going behind everyone in this world, with that of a street dog. There is a whole lot of difference between caring a dog, raised at home and that of a street dogs. Both are dogs, but their quality and standards differ considerably.

To Caring

You shocked me with your narration and understanding of the Hindu marriage process. Probably, you must be one of the many in this "modern world", who have such opinion. There is nothing wrong with the Hindu marriage process, including "trading the buffalo in the upcountry market", but the problem lies with the people, who (mis)understand the marriage process. Have you ever thought, the so-called "ugly buffalo", who gets traded in the market does the same, when she gets her son married later.

Certainly, Hindu dharma never preaches or accepts such trading. Personally speaking, when my parents began my marriage process in 2001, upon my return from abroad, we received about 120 horoscopes from different sources. We picked only one and tallied it. I was so careful, not to entertain such trading process of the girl. So, we asked for her picture in advance. But, her mother said "we don't have the habit of sending pictures in advance", but they adamantly got my picture for her approval. we went to her home and had the first glimpse of her. Before reaching her home, we decided to say "YES" to this girl, however she is, though she had seen me in picture.

I am now wondering, whether I was subjected to such a "buffalo trading" in this way Winky.

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9 Best Diet Tips Ever!!!

Tip No. 1: Drink plenty of water or other calorie-free beverages.
Before you tear into that bag of potato chips, drink a glass of water first. People sometimes confuse thirst with hunger, so you can end up eating extra calories when an ice-cold glass of water is really all you needed. If plain water doesn't cut it, try drinking flavored sparkling water or brewing a cup of fruit-infused herbal tea.


Tip No. 2: Be choosy about nighttime snacks.
Mindless eating occurs most frequently after dinner, when you finally sit down and relax. Snacking in front of the TV is one of the easiest ways to throw your diet off course. Either close down the kitchen after a certain hour, or allow yourself a low-calorie snack, like a 100-calorie pack of cookies or a half-cup scoop of low-fat ice cream.


Tip No. 3: Enjoy your favorite foods.
Instead of cutting out your favorite foods altogether, be a slim shopper. Buy one fresh bakery cookie instead of a box, or a small portion of candy from the bulk bins instead of a whole bag. You can still enjoy your favorite foods - the key is moderation.


Tip No. 4: Eat several mini-meals during the day.
If you eat fewer calories than you burn, you'll lose weight. But when you're hungry all the time, eating fewer calories can be a challenge. "Studies show people who eat 4-5 meals or snacks per day are better able to control their appetite and weight," says obesity researcher Rebecca Reeves, DrPH, RD. She recommends dividing your daily calories into smaller meals or snacks and enjoying most of them earlier in the day - dinner should be the last time you eat.


Tip No. 5: Eat protein at every meal.
Protein is the ultimate fill-me-up food - it's more satisfying than carbs or fats and keeps you feeling full for longer. It also helps preserve muscle mass and encourages fat burning. So be sure to incorporate healthy proteins like lean meat, yogurt, cheese, nuts, or beans into your meals and snacks.


Tip No. 6: Spice it up.
Add spices or chiles to your food for a flavor boost that can help you feel satisfied. "Food that is loaded with flavor will stimulate your taste buds and be more satisfying, so you won't eat as much," says American Dietetic Association spokeswoman Malena Perdomo, RD. When you need something sweet, suck on a red-hot fireball candy. It's sweet, spicy, and low in calories.


Tip No. 7: Stock your kitchen with healthy convenience foods.
Having ready-to-eat snacks and meals-in-minutes on hand sets you up for success. You'll be less likely to hit the drive-through or call in a pizza order if you can throw together a healthy meal in five or 10 minutes. Here are some essentials to keep on hand: frozen vegetables, whole-grain pasta, reduced-fat cheese, canned tomatoes, canned beans, pre-cooked grilled chicken breast, whole grain tortillas or pitas, and bags of salad greens.


Tip No. 8: Order children's portions at restaurants.
Ordering a child-size entree is a great way to cut calories and keep your portions reasonable. This has become such a popular trend that most servers won't bat an eye when you order off the kids' menu. Another trick is to use smaller plates. This helps the portions look like more, and if your mind is satisfied, your stomach likely will be, too.


Tip No. 9: Swap a cup of pasta for a cup of vegetables.
Simply by eating less pasta or bread and more veggies, you could lose a dress or pants size in a year. "You can save from 100-200 calories if you reduce the portion of starch on your plate and increase the amount of vegetables," says Cynthia Sass, RD, a spokeswoman for the American Dietetic Association.

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Live positive and be positive

Let us think over........

Why is the media here so negative?

Why are we in India so embarrassed to recognize our own strengths, our achievements?
We are such a great nation. We have so many amazing success stories but we refuse to acknowledge them. Why?
We are the first in milk production.
We are number one in Remote sensing satellites.
We are the second largest producer of wheat.
We are the second largest producer of rice.
Look at Dr. Sudarshan , he has transferred the tribal village into a self-sustaining, self-driving unit.. There are millions of such achievements but our media is only obsessed in the bad news and failures and disasters.
I was in Tel Aviv once and I was reading the Israeli newspaper. It was the day after a lot of attacks and bombardments and deaths had taken place. The Hamas had struck. But the front page of the newspaper had the picture of a Jewish gentleman who in five years had transformed his desert into an orchid and a granary. It was this inspiring picture that everyone woke up to. The gory details of killings, bombardments, deaths, were inside in the newspaper, buried among other news.


In India we only read about death, sickness, terrorism, crime.. Why are we so NEGATIVE? Another question: Why are we, as a nation so obsessed with foreign things? We want foreign T.Vs, we want foreign shirts. We want foreign technology.


Why this obsession with everything imported. Do we not realize that self-respect comes with self-reliance? I was in Hyderabad giving this lecture, when a 14 year old girl asked me for my autograph. I asked her what her goal in life is.. She replied: I want to live in a developed India . For her, you and I will have to build this developed India . You must proclaim. India is not an under-developed nation; it is a highly developed nation.


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YOU say that our government is inefficient.
YOU say that our laws are too old.
YOU say that the municipality does not pick up the garbage.
YOU say that the phones don't work, the railways are a joke. The airline is the worst in the world, mails never reach their destination.
YOU say that our country has been fed to the dogs and is the absolute pits.


YOU say, say and say.. What do YOU do about it?


Take a person on his way to Singapore . Give him a name - 'YOURS'. Give him a face - 'YOURS'. YOU walk out of the airport and you are at your International best. In Singapore you don't throw cigarette butts on the roads or eat in the stores. YOU are as proud of their Underground links as they are.. You pay $5 (approx. Rs.. 60) to drive through Orchard Road (equivalent of Mahim Causeway or Pedder Road) between 5 PM and 8 PM. YOU come back to the parking lot to punch your parking ticket if you have over stayed in a restaurant or a shopping mall irrespective of your status identity… In Singapore you don't say anything, DO YOU? YOU wouldn't dare to eat in public during Ramadan, in Dubai .. YOU would not dare to go out without your head covered in Jeddah.
YOU would not dare to buy an employee of the telephone exchange in London at 10 pounds (Rs..650) a month to, 'see to it that my STD and ISD calls are billed to someone else.'YOU would not dare to speed beyond 55 mph (88 km/h) in Washington and then tell the traffic cop, 'Jaanta hai main kaun hoon (Do you know who I am?). I am so and so's son. Take your two bucks and get lost.' YOU wouldn't chuck an empty coconut shell anywhere other than the garbage pail on the beaches in Australia and New Zealand ..
Why don't YOU spit Paan on the streets of Tokyo ? Why don't YOU use examination jockeys or buy fake certificates in Boston ??? We are still talking of the same YOU. YOU who can respect and conform to a foreign system in other countries but cannot in your own. You who will throw papers and cigarettes on the road the moment you touch Indian ground. If you can be an involved and appreciative citizen in an alien country, why cannot you be the same here in India ?

In America every dog owner has to clean up after his pet has done the job. Same in Japan ..
Will the Indian citizen do that here?' He's right. We go to the polls to choose a government and after that forfeit all responsibility.
We sit back wanting to be pampered and expect the government to do everything for us whilst our contribution is totally negative. We expect the government to clean up but we are not going to stop chucking garbage all over the place nor are we going to stop to pick a up a stray piece of paper and throw it in the bin. We expect the railways to provide clean bathrooms but we are not going to learn the proper use of bathrooms.
We want Indian Airlines and Air India to provide the best of food and toiletries but we are not going to stop pilfering at the least opportunity.
This applies even to the staff who is known not to pass on the service to the public.

When it comes to burning social issues like those related to women, dowry, girl child! and others, we make loud drawing room protestations and continue to do the reverse at home. Our excuse? 'It's the whole system which has to change, how will it matter if I alone forego my sons' rights to a dowry.' So who's going to change the system?
What does a system consist of? Very conveniently for us it consists of our neighbours, other households, other cities, other communities and the government. But definitely not me and YOU. When it comes to us actually making a positive contribution to the system we lock ourselves along with our families into a safe cocoon and look into the distance at countries far away and wait for a Mr.Clean to come along & work miracles for us with a majestic sweep of his hand or we leave the country and run away.
Like lazy cowards hounded by our fears we run to America to bask in their glory and praise their system. When New York becomes insecure we run to England . When England experiences unemployment, we take the next flight out to the Gulf. When the Gulf is war struck, we demand to be rescued and brought home by the Indian government. Everybody is out to abuse and rape the country. Nobody thinks of feeding the system. Our conscience is mortgaged to money.


Dear Indians, The article is highly thought inductive, calls for a great deal of introspection and pricks one's conscience too….. I am echoing J. F. Kennedy's words to his fellow Americans to relate to Indians…..


'ASK WHAT WE CAN DO FOR INDIA AND DO WHAT HAS TO BE DONE TO MAKE INDIA WHAT AMERICA AND OTHER WESTERN COUNTRIES ARE TODAY'


Lets do what India needs from us.
Forward this mail to each Indian for a change instead of sending Jokes or junk mails.


Thank you,

Dr.. Abdul Kalam

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A Women Enrepreneur

Hi Ladies,

Love you all.....I am a women with lots of hopes to achieve and successful in my life. I am not really clear about my thoughts and want to your suggestions and guidance in order to love want I want to do.

I am working as a software engineer in a very good company here in US. The work is not bad but it is not motivating me looks like i dont fit in this field. From my childhood i knew that but with parents wish i became an engineer and continuing same responsibilities.

I dont want to lead this life for another 40 years. I want to do what i like the most. coming to me i am very artistic and creative person, i always finds something interesting and what to do that stuff.....

I do painting, Crafts,Fruit carving, Event planning, Decoration, Drawing, cloth painting, cloth embroiderer, Mehendi .....you name it related to art i am very interested in that...the other thing is i am very interested in jewellery and cloths....i go mad about them....

I want to do something related to this kind of business. I live in US and i dont have any clue about these.

Can some one suggest me how to proceed further with my thoughts? i first want to start a business which makes sense ( means i know that it is going to be stable and profit me). Then i want to try for new business ideas in creative field.

The first thing comes to mind is cloth Business and jewellery business. Can some pour thier experiences and suggestions regarding this or you can pour in any ideas that match up to my interests.

Thanks
A women

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how to keep women happy

Here is the explanation of the list and the answer to your question:-

1. Praise her cooking even if sometimes it may not turn out to be well:- Cheeky
2. Be humorous:- Big Laugh
3. Appreciate everything she does for you:- Pleased
4. Never do things that make her mad at you:- Cookoo
5. Put on some cool music and dance with her sometimes:- Dancer
6. Play with her like a child sometimes:- Yippee
7. Avoid saying No to her wishes:- Hopeless
8. Be a good listener and nod your head when she speaks:- yup
9. When angry don't shout. Just keep quiet:- Can't Talk
10. If she cracks a joke, act as if it was great:- Big Laugh
11. Make her feel like a queen:- Queen
12. Deflate any inflated egos that you may have:- Bouncy
13. If once a while she loses it...let her be:- Bang Head
14. Always wave to her when leaving the house:- Wave
15. Smile at her often:- Smile
16. If she makes a mistake just grin and let it go:- Very Happy
17. Never express doubts on her abilities:- Cynic
18. Overlook all her faults like wearing dark glasses:- Cool
19. Don't oppose her views too much. Say Yes even if she maybe wrong:- No No
20. In case of heated arguments, let her raise her voice. Keep your's low:- Rant
21. And last but not the least...please her in bed. Wink
 

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Starting a new organization

Lot of discussion has happened already. You may not start your company as of now. However, let me tell you that 85% businessmen fail in their business because they don't do any market research. Nothing stops you from doing market research while in the job. It can be off-job activity.

First you do some course on how to do market research. You do the research on the following points:

a) Who will be my customers? What is their profile? Where are they located?

b) What I need to do to attract my customers to my product or service? How can I take my product or services to them?

c) What is my product differentiation? What will be the brand pull?

d) Who are my competitors? Who is strongest? Why are they strong? You are going to benchmark against whom? Is there geographical variation among the competitors?

e) Did anyone earlier enter in this business and has anyone failed? Why did they fail?

f) Are there verdicts of supreme court or high course or any other court available related to the delivery of products or services?

g) Will there be any distributors? What is the psychology of the distributors? What will be their education background?

h) Do you know the product/service very well? Do you have passion to produce that product or deliver that service?

i) Have you decided about the quality of the product or service? Is there differentiation among "good', "very good" and "excellent" product or service?

j) What will be measures of performance of the employees that you will employ? When their performance will be "good', "very good" and "excellent"?

k) What will be your recruitment strategy to recruit the "right" staff? What research have you done of job market to get the "right" staffs?

l) Will you take help of your near and dear ones to run your business? What will be their involvement? What "immunity" will they enjoy because they are "near and dear" to you?

m) Are you aware completely the statutory requirements to run this business? Have you actually met Govt officials and obtained information from them or just relied on your company secretary or chartered accountant?

You can obtain the information on the above points while in the job. Remember information is the key in today's world. Businessmen or businesswomen fail because of lack of awareness.

All the best!

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How do bookies make money

Being bookies is the biggest sports business these days, and makes a lot of money in what they do. Bookies are the people who you deposit your money with while betting, they bet on your behalf.

Betting is similar to gambling where you put your money at stake and bet on a particular individual or a team. It is similar to gambling in a casino, where you play with numbers, the only difference being that this is sports related. However, the money element is involved in both.

Betting or gambling has never been easy and is not definitely everyone’s cup of tea. It is advised that bad gamblers or people without a gambling sense should stay away from betting.

Bookies are intelligent, knowledgeable people who have been following different sports from a long time. Bookies have studied each game in detail and know the entire history around it, so they can never go wrong. This they can use to their advantage by tricking the common person who has no knowledge about that particular game. Ninety percent of people who get bookies their business are bad gamblers and can be fooled easily.

What most people do is bet an equal amount of money on both sides; in such a scenario irrespective of the team, which wins or looses it, is a clear-cut profit for the bookie.

Certain people have absolutely no sense on money management,  they do not know how to manage their money, and at times when the game is at its peak, they even forget to keep a track on their money, which again proves to be an advantage to the bookie.

Certain bookies lend money on credit and thus charge a heavy interest on it. Getting the money on credit some people forget to keep a track and end up taking a huge amount, which again is a profit for the bookie because of the interest rate charged on the amount.

To predict the precise reasons for a bookie to make money have not been very clear to anyone as of date. As mentioned above a bookie with a sports background is always more successful. For any bookie to be successful, it is very important that you have a strong sports base and follow games carefully. A history of a game is all that counts on the final day in the field.

Bookies have ruled and would continue to rule the sports business in the years to come.

It has been correctly said, “Bookies win, always have and always will.”

So, next time you play with your money and that too with a bookie, make sure that you keep this thing in mind; whether you win or lose, bookie involved with you will always win and never loose. It is his smart business and he knows every smart technique. This is one the most vital reasons involved in how the bookie makes money.

It all about the intelligence these bookies play when it come to minting money in this business.

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How to Become a Model

India has a good market for modeling and acting business. Bollywood, produces thousands of movies a year, which needs professional models in addition to actors and actresses. There are also plenty of editorial and runway opportunities for Indian models, particularly with the emergence of Indian fashion designers and the launch of fashion magazines like Vogue India.

Here are few Instructions for you if you want to become a model in India:

* India has a large market for a variety of modeling jobs, not just high-fashion modeling, market is open for teen modeling, body parts modeling and commercial modeling also, so you have to decide what type of model you want to become. Commercial modeling is more accepting of models who come in all shapes and sizes, and not necessarily only tall and very thin ones.

* Take some photographs of you to send to various agencies in India. The photographs don’t have to be professional, but they have to give an accurate impersonation of what you look like. Send at least one one full body shot and close-up of your face. If you are considering body parts modeling (i.e. feet and hands) take photos of the body parts you think are best suited for modeling.

* Since India does not have many accredited modeling coordinators, your best bet is to submit your photos to Elite Model Management in India, which is the premier modeling agency in the country. It is an authorized agency that won’t  take advantage of you or try to rip you off.

* Email your photos to Elite Model India and their address is : Yamini.tripathi@elitemodelsindia.com. or Upload your photos to the their website, You may also mail your photos and a short bio to the agency at this address: 2nd Floor, NDIIT Building, 105 MOR Pocket, Kalkaji, New Delhi – 110019, INDIA. A representative from the agency will be in touch with you.

* Go to as many “go-sees” and castings as possible. A go-see is like a short interview in which the model meets with a client who then decides if the model is suited for the job. It is often helpful to go to castings and meet recruiters, agents and clients in person.

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how to become a good film Director

Direction in the film industry is not an easy joke. The person must put forth full of his effect to achieve the great seat known “Good Director”. However, completing a film successfully is really a headache job. To see the director work many may think it as an easy job sitting at a sit but that sit is thorn until you complete the job.

Ways to be a good director:
1)    Before stepping to the final step as good director, the person must begin their first step to be a director at a school or well versed film making training school.
2)    Get a certified director. During the course try to make some short film out of your own ideas. Try to all rounder so that it will be much useful in future.
3)    Join as an assistant director to any of the director so as to get good number experience in that field and also you can let to know about many people in the film industry.
4)    Taking care of health is also essential because both the director and his assistants will have the duty to move around all places where the shooting take place.
5)    Choosing producer, actor, actress, shooting place, location, music director, singer and other co-actors and other essential factors are chosen out of director interest or you may have substitute members to do this works.
6)    Most important characteristic that a good director should pose is good speaking ability. You must be a good communicator only then you can be well recognized among people.
7)    Plan out or sketch the necessary elements and things required for the film. Try to manipulate with all things such as at audio recording, chorea preview and so on.
8)    Creativity should be the most important thing and you should know how to tackle things.

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Fun facts about women – For example, women do NOT like beards

Esquire magazine interviewed 10,000 women and uncovered some amazing stuff:

Based on that paragraph, this is not a representative sample of American women. The average age of Americans is 35 and only 28% have a college degree.

There are several questions in here where 80% or 90% of women agree. For example:

- 92% of women prefer men with shaved or stubbled faces as opposed to beards.

- 81% of women would prefer to receive a trip as a gift, compared to jewelry or lingerie.

- 72% of women expect the man to open the door for them

- 89% of women would divorce Tiger Woods

- 89% believe in evolution

- 89% support gay marriage

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October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month

I know I haven't posted for a while, but with good reason. This time, I'm actually spending time writing - a lot of time. I'm going to commit myself to writing a post at least once a month. This month's post is for a great cause - breast cancer awareness.

Early breast cancer detection can be a matter of life or death. October aims to increase awareness of how important early detection is for everyone. So how can you increase your awareness?

Learn the Facts: Understand what breast cancer means, how and when to do a self-exam, what factors are considered high-risk, what to do if you are at high-risk: you can find this information here.

How to Help: There are many ways to help, like starting your own fundraiser. If you don't have the time for this, then how about you donate to one, like this one. For those who work outside of the home, you can get your company involved by asking them to sponsor a "jean-Friday".

Something to think about: aside from skin cancer, breast cancer is the most common cancer in women in the United States. Please spread the word.

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